More RV Living

So, BF got a job thanks to Indeed and military mechanic experience! I’ve been putting in applications everywhere, but BF talked to the Administrative manager at his job and she interviewed me and it looks like I’m in! So we’d be working at the same place, hopefully with almost the same hours.

So, BF has been fixing the leaks and buying new parts and everything so that is finally starting to come together. We’re working on all of the storage still: the bottom of the two bunk beds is now storage for our deep freezer and my nightstand and the vacuum (which we actually might not need). The biggest annoyance now is the RV rocking back and forth with any movement inside, like walking from the bed to the bathroom or other things. So, BF made sure that the jack stands were evenly spaced under the RV, supporting equal weight. Then we went to buy more jack stands to support the weight under the axles, and we bought things that go between the sets of tires to keep the RV from rocking forward and back, shaped like two triangles with the top points facing each other. They’re curved to fit around the tires. Basically wheel chocks that go toward the top/middle of between the tires. That has helped a ton, although the RV does still rock a tiny bit. We’re just about settled with it!

Cooking is a bit of a challenge because there is obviously very little counter space and the stove and oven are relatively small, as well as the fridge and freezer being small. But we’re making do, and I’ve learned that we can buy the fresh ingredients for things and eat at home for cheaper than going out to eat all the time.

To save a little on energy consumption, we like to keep the thermostat at 65 in the morning, 60 at night, and we just keep blankets and hoodies and cozy socks around to put on if we feel cold. I like to keep things unplugged where I can, like phone chargers not in use. I use a three wick candle in the evening for light in addition to the light from the tv. The blinds are open during the day to maximize natural light. Keeping the bathroom door also helps keep heat in the rest of the camper, because there’s a skylight and a vent in the bathroom and obviously no cloth things to help hold in heat.

We have to wash dishes a lot more often because the sink is very small and there’s no dishwasher. It made me realize that I bought WAY too many glasses. I have sets of four of five or six  types of glasses, so most of them are in storage.

It is quite the challenge to realize that all the stuff you have is probably not going to fit in an RV. You get used to all the things and don’t want to part with it until you get frustrated enough with lack of space to say “screw it, it’s going in storage.”

If I haven’t touched on something you’re wondering about, let me know! We’re only about two and a half weeks in to RV Living but just about everything normal happens in two and a half weeks.

Starting our RV living

Boyfriend and I are moving from my hometown to Oregon. I’m 24 and have never lived anywhere else but here, and BF is 30 and has been in the military for the last 8 years so he has moved quite a lot. He will be getting out of the army, and we have decided on Oregon for our home. We have decided that, while we get on our feet, we are going to live in a 32 ft RV in an RV park for six months. This will save us money because a) RV payment + RV lot fee = ~525 per month, compared to 1000 per month or higher for renting a house and b) even if we get really good jobs with good income, paying 525 for living expenses out of our salaries we expect to get will allow us to put a lot into savings for a home that we love and put a good down payment on it.

We are currently three and a half weeks away from the drive with all of our stuff. We have about 90% of our things packed, leaving just enough to live off of for three weeks. We are going to get a storage unit for all of our stuff until we get the moving truck and load it up, and then we will drive to Nevada to get the camper (we bought it from BF’s mom so we got a great deal on a basically new RV). We will drive halfway (about 8 hours), stay in a hotel for the night, finish the drive (another 8 or 9 hours), stay at her house for a night or maybe two, and then finish the drive to Oregon (about 10 hours).

Because I have never moved before, I’m very excited, but the closer we get to moving, the more scared I get. I know that we have everything planned except for having jobs lined up in Oregon, but I’m the biggest worry warrior ever. I’ve been looking everywhere for tips on living in an RV, but haven’t found much in the way of making everything easy.

So, I think I’m going to be what I wish others had done, and keep everyone up to date on what we find out and things we could have done better. So, here are the first couple of things that have helped us so far.

  • We have been saving as much money as possible, thanks to living very frugally and basically not going out to do fun things. This is in case we don’t find jobs right away. However, BF will be getting terminal pay from his last day in the military (Oct 16) through the last day of his contract (Dec 14). So, if we do both get jobs, we have our savings and his terminal pay to carry us for at least a month (although our savings could probably support all our bills for three months). Due to his service in the military, we are doing a DIY move, which means we are moving all of our stuff and the army is paying him for the cost of moving him back to his hometown which is roughly the same distance as here to Oregon. That payment will cover the cost of the moving truck up to a load of 9000 pounds, and BF is confident that we will have money left over for all of the gas and food and the hotel night we need during the travel plus some extra once we’re at our destination.
  • We started packing our things about a month ago, and BF still had a lot of his household stuff still in boxes in the garage because he was living with a roommate and only had one bedroom in the house. This has really helped on stress levels because, when you complete a big task by breaking it up into smaller tasks, the big task is not an issue anymore. However, the roommate has already moved out of the house which forces BF and me to get a storage unit while we’re still here and we will be staying with my parents for the last week before we move. We tried finding a storage unit for $1 for the first month like some of them advertise, but there is an admin fee and insurance, so we decided that waiting until Oct 1 is not practical because we need to be out of the house before then, and getting a unit for three weeks versus for two is not that much more expensive.
  • Our camper is big. 32 feet, which is roughly 7000 pounds. BF has a Silverado 1500 4×4 with a towing package, but it might not be powerful enough to haul the camper. So we have taken that into account and have a backup plan to switch trucks with BF’s brother (his truck has a Cummins engine so as much as I hate dodge vehicles, I’m all for saving wear and tear on the Silverado) and then switch back at some point. But we are hoping that the Silverado can handle it.
  • We have, of course, packed everything into Tough Boxes, which we labeled to make it easier to place things in the storage unit so we know exactly what we will need to go in the camper when we get to Oregon and which we need to go into storage up there. The more we can get into those Tough Boxes rather than in odd and assorted shapes and sizes, the easier it is to fill the storage unit and moving truck because squares and rectangles the same size are so much easier to play Tetris with than random items outside of random boxes we acquired. We have also been trying to keep track of weight so BF can report it to the army in order to get paid, but when you’re focused on moving things and organizing them into neat boxes and stacks, it is difficult to estimate weight. The most we can do is hope that we have enough weight to get paid enough to cover the costs of the whole move and keep ourselves from paying for anything out of pocket.

So far, that’s where we are in the start of our new journey. I am excited to keep reporting on this to help anyone in the future who might be thinking about choosing the path we chose to live in an RV while we’re getting stable in a new state.

Thanks for reading!

Repulsive

I had to leave the group Childfree Chicks Confidential on facebook today. 😦 I love that group and being a part of it, but being around people who think the same as I do makes the way I feel about kids cement into my brain. I mean, I’m pretty stuck on the “Despise Children” setting anyway, but knowing that there are so many other women who feel the same way really tears away the handle on that switch so there’s no going back to “Kids? Whatever.”

The last post I read on that page is that one of the women thinks it’s cute to see a man holding a baby. Me? It’s actually pretty repulsive. For example, whenever I see my man, no matter what he’s wearing or what he’s doing, I can’t help but stare. I am incredibly attracted to him. But when his kid was here and ran into a wall and my man picked him up to comfort him… I almost couldn’t hide the scowl on my face. My man became incredibly unattractive just in that one action. If my man were to hold a puppy or a kitten, I’d still be completely attracted. But a kid? GTFO.

I’m so glad I have this blog. I’m not sure whether you all actually read these or they’re more like a diary, but my blog is safe. My man doesn’t even read the posts I WANT him to read, much less every post I create. And right now, I really appreciate that I can put all my true thoughts out here and I know I won’t hurt his feelings. Maybe it helps me to get my thoughts out. Don’t get me wrong, I want these thoughts to change. I love my man with my entire being. But the fact that he has a kid and claims another one as his own too… it feels like a punishment to me.

I’ve always said, “I’m not a Christian. I have a relationship with God.” The word Christian connotes a lot of judgment and hypocrisy. But my relationship with God fits me. But when I was having trouble finding a good man, I turned to God and asked Him to bring my perfect man into my life. I asked Him for specific things that I would like in a man. And weirdly enough, that’s when my man came into my life. A mutual friend of ours texted me and asked me if I was still looking for someone. My man had never spent free time with that friend before, and I hadn’t heard from that friend in well over a year. It just felt like my prayer had been answered when I went on that first date. But then he told me he has “kids”, and I only put it in quotes because only one of them is biologically his.

It’s no secret that I despise children. In fact, one of the first questions I asked my man is if he had kids, and honestly I should have walked away when he said yes. I really should have. But his personality is so perfect for me. I really feel like we’re supposed to be together. But the fact that he has kids? It feels like God opened up the sky and said “Here ya go. Here’s what you asked for. But fuck you for asking, your man has kids.” I feel like I’m being punished for asking for what I wanted. I thought that you’re supposed to ask Him for what you want. God knows trying to find a man on my own was just getting me heartbroken over and over.

I really don’t know what to do. I love this man, but the baby mama and the kids are killing me… What can I do? I don’t want all this drama with the BM and the kids… I want to be number one in his life. I deserve someone who puts me first…. but I don’t want to leave this one because I know there won’t be anyone else like him out there. And honestly, I don’t think there’s any changing how much I despise kids. That’s just the way I am.

To whoever is reading this, any advice is greatly appreciated.

What Women Need To Remember

No matter how sweet he is, no matter how much he’s there for you and he takes care of you when you’re sick or you have surgery, he’s still a man. He’s still going to piss you off and blow off plans he had made with you. Don’t ever get to the point where you lose your independence. Remember that you don’t NEED him in your life, you WANT him in your life. Always be prepared to go it alone if you have to. No matter how perfect he seems sometimes, he’s not perfect, just like you’re not perfect. He doesn’t remember how easily things he does and says hurt you.

Credit Ratings

So I understand the need for good credit. I do. I understand that people need to be able to trust you when you tell them you’re going to pay X amount every month for whatever it is you want to buy. I wouldn’t want to just trust anyone right off the bat either. But if I have a GREAT credit score but I only have two or three lines of credit open, such as a credit card, a gas card, and a student loan, why can’t I just be able to get what I want? I thought the credit rating was the most important thing? The credit card has been open for around two years, and I’ve been using it a lot lately and making my payments. But I went to a car dealership and they don’t like that I don’t have a lot of history. I guess I can understand that, it’s like when you first meet someone and you don’t know whether you want to trust them to come over to your house cuz then they’ll know where you live. But if my credit score is really good so far, give me a chance!

And you need good credit for almost everything now. Which means when they won’t give you a chance, you can’t do s***. Then you have to worry about finding a cosigner and most people don’t want to cosign for anyone because they dont’ want to mess up THEIR credit. It’s a stupid system, really. I mean it’s a good system, but the complete lack of trust sucks too. I wish there was something more I could do except keep waiting and making my payments and letting time go by while I keep up good habits. I’m so impatient!!